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Forgiveness Healing Resources


94% of people agree that forgiveness is key to achieving a happy life and psychological well being, and almost all of them also admit that they have no idea how to go about achieving forgiveness.

This unique interactive Forgiveness Healing Resource from Life Coaches Toolbox, gives you wide range of tools to apply in your forgiveness practice and work.

  Forgiveness Healing Resources

There are probably a million different views on what forgiveness is, who deserves to access it and how atonement is made possible, but every single religion, culture and belief system around the world, including most mainstream non-religious views, are in agreement that forgiveness is key to achieving mental and emotional balance and psychological and spiritual happiness.

Many of them are even in agreement that holding onto anger, resentment and other negative emotions is the key cause of the physical discomfort, illness and dis-ease that so many people around the world seem to be experiencing.

Sadly, even when you prescribe to a religious view and follow all the rules and practices, you are not guaranteed that you'll achieve a sense of relief or peace, or even know that the blessing of forgiveness is bestowed on you by your chosen Higher Power.

One thing is for certain though, when you achieve that breakthrough moment in which you know that forgiveness has been found, you will feel an immediate sense of relief.

It washes over you like a euphoric high, and it's pretty easy in that moment and all the days that follow to understand why forgiveness is so powerful, so revered by all the cultural, spiritual and religious traditions - and so well worth the mountain of work that it sometimes takes to get there.

  Understanding Forgiveness

Here you will find interactive tools & resources that will further your understanding of forgiveness practice.

These tools can all be applied to help you find forgiveness release as well.

Forgiveness Around the World

  How do the World Cultures & Religions Approach Forgiveness?

This is an overview of forgiveness practices in religions & cultures around the world.

According to a Gallup Poll, 94% of people agree that forgiveness matters - but even when they are part of a religion, they often have no idea of how to go about achieving it.

What are other people, in other religions & cultures, taught about the practice of forgiveness.

Could you use any of that knowledge, and apply it to furthering your own forgiveness practice & understanding?


Ask For & Extend Forgiveness Process

  What do you need to cover when you ask for or extend forgiveness?

A lot of the time, when you want to heal a rift with someone, it never gets off the ground because you don't know where to start.

The Ask For & Extend Forgiveness Framework is a model you can follow to create an effective apology, and ask for forgiveness.

You can also follow the steps to extend forgiveness to somebody who wronged you.


Ho'oponopono Forgiveness

  Healing Forgiveness Statements for the Victim, Perpetrator & Bystanders

Use these healing statements to forgive all the people, in all the various roles, in your forgiveness challenge.

Simply reading the page will expand your knowledge about forgiveness, and the very popular Ho'oponopono Forgiveness Practice.

The more you understand about forgiveness, the easier it will be for you to put it into practice.

Learning about forgiveness by means of an actionable tool will also help train your mind to put abstract concepts into practice: turning the intangible into reality.


Victim, Perpetrator & Bystander Questions

  A coaching question set covering many of the usual angles in forgiveness challenges

In any forgiveness situation, there are three positions - victim, perpetrator & bystanders or witnesses.

Sometimes when you can't achieve forgiveness, it's because you need to look at the issue from one of these other angles as well.


ACIM Forgiveness Meditation

  A Forgiveness Meditation from the A Course In Miracles Workbook Lessons

If you had to sum A Course In Miracles up in two words, those words would be ego & forgiveness.

Drawn from the A Course In Miracles Workbook Lessons, this series of lessons covers key concepts about forgiveness.

Once again, this page contains an actionable tool that you can use - a meditation & a visual meditation tool.

Reading the page will also help enhance your knowledge about forgiveness, and give you concepts to help you think about forgiveness in a new way.


  Interactive Forgiveness Healing Tools & Resources

Here you will find a range of interactive forgiveness healing resources, designed to help you tackle all aspects of forgiveness.

As with all Life Coaches Toolbox Apps, all the information you enter into any of our tools is secured by the way we've desgined our apps.

This means that you can answer any questions, or upload pictures of people, without any fear that your secrets will ever be found out.

Many of these tools include facilities where you can upload photos.

This helps you really connect and personalize the exercise to yourself.

This can make the world of difference if you don't find visualization easy to do.

Your Conscience is Your Guide

  Let Your Conscience Be Your Guide

Based on what you are feeling in six key areas, this tool helps you to figure out what level of intensity of forgiveness practice to engage in.

Sometimes the reason that you can't find forgiveness, or absolution, is that what you've done is so huge that simply cutting energetic ties won't be enough.


Forgiveness Photo Tool

  Upload a Photo of the Person You Want to Forgive

A unique, interactive forgiveness tool that helps you to more easily stay focused on the exercise.

It's easy to lose focus when you're trying to do exercises like these, and many of us battle to visualize as well.

This tool allows you to upload a picture of the person you want to forgive, and then use the Ho'oponopono Statements in various ways to reinforce your choice to fogive.

Because this tool has a movement element, you don't need to listen to anything or say anything out loud.

So this is a great tool to sit and use in public, without anyone else ever knowing.


Forgiveness Video Tool

  Let this Video Help You on the Subconscious Level

A video that uses overt techniques, and subliminal principles, to help you break through a forgiveness block.

Based on Ho'oponopono techniques, this photo & video tool allows you to incorporate a picture of the person into the video design, and then just sit back & watch the video.

The Ho'oponopono Forgiveness Statements are also incorporated into the design, and these sink in subliminally, helping you to accept the decision over time.

Using tools like accelerates the time lapse until forgiveness, because they engage all your senses, and reinforce the message on all levels.

Because you choose to watch the video, you're telling your system to pay attention, and take on, the message in the healing video tool.


Cord Cutting

  Release the Energetic Cords that Tie You to Someone

The idea of cords that connect us, and that we sometimes need to cut, or remove them, is a concept that a surprising amount of people are comfortable with.

Even if you aren't spiritual, there's logic in doing a visualization that disconnects you from someone (or something): it ttricks the mind into accepting the change as real.

That's where it gets tricky though... visualization. Not everyone can visualize.

With this tool, you'll upload a picture of the person or thing you want to let go of, and then click when you're ready to cut those cords.

The tool will let you results of that... and you won't be able to get the cord to reconnect again.

This is a powerful way to reinforce that the cord is truly cut for good.


Forgiveness with Energy & Light

  Using an Energy & Light Visualization to Achieve a Forgiveness Release

If you aren't necessarily comfortable working with a Higher Power, or religious role or figure, then working with Light can be a powerful workaround.

Sometimes you just need extra help from somewhere else; this is a great tool to help you do that.

Included are the full instructions to take yourself, or someone else, through a guided meditation to release everyone involved in the forgiveness challenge.

We've also included a digital tool that does the visualization process for you.

Just upload pictures of yourself, and five others connected to the issue, and then click wherre indicated to start the healing with light.

JUst like the light in the visualization blanks everyone out, the digital tool will blank out everyone - and remove this lack of forgiveness from everyone's karmic load, forever.


Release a Past Life

  Is there some past life factor influencing the way you feel about this forgiveness challenge?

Visualization for simple energy exercises is hard enough for most people to do... asking people to find out details of a past life influence therefore seems impossible to most people.

This Past Life Tool gives you visual reference points and questions to answer to help you mine information about the past life that is currently influencing your life.

The power of this tool is not whether the information is historically accurate, or not.

The power of this tool lies in helping you interpret the feelings you are feeling related to this.

So relax & just enjoy it... you can't get it wrong.

  Release a Past Life

Forgive in Pairs

  Work together with someone else, to achieve forgiveness through the practice of confession

There's a reason huge institutions like the Catholic Church use the practice of confession... it really works to relieve the burden of guilt.

Use this step-by-step process to work with a friend, and let them guide you through a confession experience. Just make sure it's someone you can trust.

If there;s no one around to work with, there are answer spots where you can type your answers, and do the exercise alone.

This is also helpful when you feel too much shame about the the forgiveness challenge you're facing, and aren't prepared to discuss it with anyone else - no matter how much you trust them.


Ask for Forgiveness to be Chosen for You

  Ask a Higher Power to Make the Forgiveness Choice You Can't Make Alone

When you can't make headway yourself, it's time hire an expert to come in and do the work for you.

In this process, you'll begin by appealing to a Higher Power of your choice.

Then you'll do a few short exercises to remove resistance & make yourself more open to forgiving the pereson in question.

Finally you'll ask directly for forgiveness to be chosen for you, and you'll light a forgiveness flame.

You can leave this page - and the flame - open on the page for days.

This way, you see repeatedly, and it really reinforces the decision you have made.


Global Forgiveness

Once you start doing forgiveness work, it can get really addictive; there's very little else that will generate such feel-good feelings in you.

If you're in, or near, that space, and you're ready to crank it up a notch, then this is a really powerful exercise for you to use.

In the exercise, you will send forgiveness energy to everyone in the world - effectively forgiving the entire world.

We've also included a visual aid that you can watch so that you stay focused, and your attention doesn't wander.


  Forgiveness Statement Generators

Here you will find guided form like tools, which you can complete to generate letters or discussion statements for relationships.

You will be able to craft a comprehensive apology, ask for forgiveness and clearly communicate what you need from someone in order to rebuild trust again.

The hardest part of working on your stuff - especially when there are other people involved - is not knowing what to say, or how to verbalise what you feel.

By simply answering the questions in these tools, you'll be rewarded with a written statement that you can give, send or read to the other party.

You can also take it with you into a discussion or argument, so that you've planned what you will say, and your emotions don't throw you off track: making you forget what it is you really want to say.

Apology Statement Generator

  When You Need to Say You're Sorry

When you've got to apologize for something you did wrong, you're usually overwhelmed by the shame & guilt you feel.

So, you land up fluffing the apology entirely.

Answer the questions in tthis tool, taking as long as you need, and allowing rushes of emotion to pass before you go back and continue.

At the end, you'll have created a perfect apology statement that really covers everything you want to say.

You can then give this to the other party, or make time to discuss it with them.

You'll be sure that you cover everything, and you won't spend the whole discussion trying to remember all the things you want to say.

This also means that you can relax, be present and really listen, because your inner voice doesn't have to worry that it will forget something important you wanted to say/


Ask For Forgiveness Statement Generator

  When You Want to Ask for Forgiveness

Sometimes, just apologizing isn't enough to remedy the situation - and you need ask forgiveness of the person you have wronged.

As it is when you apologize, this process is fraught with guilt, shame, embarrassment and just all-round cringe.

By taking the time to work through your thoughts beforehand, you are more effectively prepared for a relationship discussion.

Also the discussions you have will yield more value and results, because you will have worked through the emotional overwhelm on your own, while answering the tool questions.


How To Rebuild Trust Statement Generator

  What Do You Need to Trust Someone Again?

What do you need to rebuild trust with someone who has betrayed you?

When you've been betrayed, you know something needs to happen to set it right... but you usually have no idea what that is.

Answer the questions in this tool, and unpack various ideas of ways that the guilty party can make it up to you, and earn your trust again.


  Releasing Your Resistance to Forgiveness

In this section you will find tools that are designed to help you release your resistance to forgiving someone or something.

In Hindu philosophy forgiveness is seen as being compassionate, tender and kind, and having the ability to let go of the harm caused by someone or something else.

It is essential for freeing oneself from negative thoughts, enabling you to focus on blissfully living a moral and ethical life.

In the highest self-realized state forgiveness becomes the essence of one's personality, allowing the persecuted to remain unaffected, without agitation, anger or the need to adopt a victim mentality.

Under Judaism the acts of repentance and forgiveness are inextricably linked and Jews are counseled to never allow their anger towards others to cause them to lose sight of self-reflection and cleansing.

They Jews are also counselled to extend forgiveness to those who seek it, so that they do not delay their own spiritual development, or that of the person seeking atonement.

Under Jewish teachings, you have fulfilled your obligation to seek forgiveness when you have asked for it three times.

Compassion is an important part of achieving forgiveness, whether that forgiveness is for yourself or for another. And compassion is something we sorely lack in what seems to be a very lonely world for many people.

In fact, according to suicide.org, global suicide rates have increased by a whopping 60% in the last 45 years, with 16 out of every 100,000 people worldwide opting to end their lives.

The World Health Organisation (WHO) now ranks suicide as the 15th leading cause of death in the world and the 2nd leading cause of death among persons aged 15 to 29.

Globally there is a suicide that takes place every 40 seconds – which effectively means that between 2 and 3 people have committed suicide since you started reading this page.

This number only accounts for persons who succeed though, and doesn't take into account suicide attempts, which estimates place at 20 for every successful suicide.

Finding compassion for someone, especially when what they have done has left a bitter taste in your mouth, is a lot easier said than done though isn't it?

The following series of exercises is designed to help you be able to look at the person you want to forgive with more compassion so that you can find a way to release them, achieving forgiveness and inner peace.

You can do all these exercises and run every process you can find until you're blue in the face, but if you do not really intend to achieve compassion and forgiveness, it's not going to happen.

Exercises and processes are really just a way for you to focus your attention and intention, while giving your conscious mind something to do at the same time :)


  Remove Feelings of Inferiority & Superiority

Ego loves to trick us into seeing situations from a point of view of hierarchy... so someone has to be superior, and the other person inferior.

This tool will help you understand more about hierarchy, and overcome your need to create hierarchy in relationships.

Once you've equalled-to someone else, it becomes a lot easier to forgive them.

When you're feeling superior to someone however, you may not believe that they are worthy, or deserving, of forgiveness.

If you feel inferior, you may believe that you have nothing to offer and that your forgiveness doesn't matter.

The space of equality is truly the only space you'll feel comfortable in orientation to another.

When you're comfortable with a person, you're much more likely to forgive them.


Step Into Their Shoes

  See the situation from both sides

Use this exercise to help you relate to the person you want to forgive, and see things from their perspective.

This exercise allows you step into their shoes, connect to a better time between you, and remind yourself that they loved you once upon a time - and that you loved them.

In the vast majority of cases, the only reason you have a forgiveness with someone, is because you have, or have had, a relationship to them at some point.

The reason you want to forgive them is because of that person you knew back then... the reason you don't want to forgive them is because you don't like who they are now.

When you connect to remembering the person you love (or loved), it will make the process of forgiving them way easier; because you'll want to forgive them.


Remember Who They Are

  Connect to the Person You Cared About

The only reason you're angry at this person is because you had, or still have, a relationship with them.

Often, when you have rsistance to forgiveness, it is because you are trying to forgive the person you're angry with: a person don't like, or perhaps even hate.

This exercise takes you back into the past... back to a time when you loved this person, or at least felt positively about them.

It becomes a lot easier to forgive someone when you like them, and believe that they deserve forgiveness.

So remind yourself of the good stuff - and remind yourself that somewhere inside there is a good person, someone who deserves forgiveness.


What Are You Sacrificing?

  What Are You Losing that You Don't Want to Give Up?

When you let go of someone, you have to let go of the plans, hopes, dreams & aspirations you had for the future.

When you do forgiveness work, you often know that it's a final release of the relationship.

This means you're not only giving up the relationship, but the hopes you had for the future.

It's giving up YOUR future with this person that's what you don't want to let go of.

This exercise will help you identify and name what you are letting go of, and create some new possibilities and opportunities for yourself to move forward into.


Dissolve Resistance

  When You Can't Identify What's Causing the Forgiveness Block

In this exercise, we'll be connecting with that hidden and unknown part of you that is resisting forgiveness.

We'll give this part of you a chance to tell you it's problem, and release the block that it's creating.

Sometimes, no matter how much you throw at it, you just can't break through your resistance to an issue. And sometimes the resistance is your belief that you don't have resistance.

This tool gives you a way to connect to that part of that is resisting, and finally figure out what it has to say, and what it is so afraid of.

Exercises like this yield very powerful results, and can force you to face parts of yourself that you would prefer to keep hidden.

Remember - no one can ever see what you type or answer with these exercises; so if you're anything less than brutally honest, you'll only be cheating yourself.


Lessons You're Thankful For

  Is there Anything You're Grateful For?

When it comes to things you need to do forgiveness work on, it alwyas feels huge to you - often the biggest thing you've ever encountered.

This tool is designed to help you put your lessons into perspective, so that you can isolate what you're grateful for.

Generating a feeling of gratitude or appreciation can go a long way towards shifting stuff that is otherwise stuck.


Limiting Beliefs

  Which Beliefs Prevent You from Forgiving?

In this tool, we're going to look at the limiting beliefs people have about forgiveness, and help you change your mind about those beliefs.

From ideas like "I have to let this person back into my life and have a relationship with them" to "forgiveness means saying that they can get away with they did", we look at common reasons why you - and others - can't achieve forgiveness.

When you correct these misperceptions, you can really experience amazing things in your life - and the miracle of forgiveness is one experience you definitely don't want to miss out on.


Priorities Tool

  Analysis & Comparison of Up to 4 Points of View

This interactive tool allows you to create - and organize - a list of priorities, & understand why there is conflict between two or more parties.

Use the tool to compare and analyze everyone's perspectives in the situations, and compare the points each person is making, one by one, in relation to what others are saying about that point.

Another way to use this is to make notes during a fight, in each of the columns.

Then, once you're done, and have calmed down, you can analyze what you recorded, compare it point by point, and reorder the lists in order of priority and importance.

When you put stuff like this down in writing, it goes a very long way to helping you sort out your mind - and find real clarity.


Let It Go Erase Tool

  Kinetic Meditation to Help You Let Go for Good

When a thought, event or person is stuck in your head, this tool offers an exercise to help you 'erase' that nagging thought from your mind.

If you can't find forgiveness, and someone keeps creeping back into your thoughts, this is a powerful exercise to reinforce the idea that ou are choosing to get rid of them.

Because this a kinetic, or movement-based meditation tool, it's great to do when you are out in public, on the train, at work, or wherever. It'll probably just look like a game to onlookers.

Doing this each time someone pops into your mind (AGAIN!), is way preferable to dwelling on the thoughts and going into a pit of despair.


  Forgiveness-related Words Glossary

A glossary of related words that you'll encounter when dealing with forgiveness practices.

Even if you think you're familiar with these terms, just give them a once-over anyway.

Every time you shift energetically, your level of consciousness increases, and you are able to understand better.

So when you review these terms now, you're reviewing them from a higher level of understanding than the last time you viewed them.

Accordingly, you'll gain more when you view them again now, because you're better equipped (mentally) to understand them, than you were previously.

💙 Forgive

1. To grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.); absolve.

2. To give up all claims on account of, remit (a debt, obligation, etc.).

3. To grant pardon to (a person).

4. To cease to feel resentment against, e.g. to forgive one's enemies.

5. To cancel an indebtedness or liability of, e.g. to forgive the interest owed on a loan.

6. To pardon an offense or an offender.

🧡 Atonement

From the phrase at one in harmony.

1. Satisfaction or reparation for a wrong or injury; amends.

2. Theology. The doctrine concerning the reconciliation of God and humankind, especially as accomplished through the life, suffering and death of Christ.

3. Christian Science. The experience of humankind's unity with God exemplified by Jesus Christ.

4. Archaic. Reconciliation; agreement.

💕 Guilt

1. The fact or state of having committed an offense, crime, violation, or wrong, especially against moral or penal law; culpability, e.g. He admitted his guilt.

2. A feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined.

3. Conduct involving the commission of such crimes, wrongs, etc., e.g. to live a life of guilt.

4. To cause to feel guilty (often followed by out or into), e.g. She totally guilted me out, dude. He guilted me into picking up the tab.

💞 Absolution

1. Act of absolving; a freeing from blame or guilt; release from consequences, obligations or penalties.

2. State of being absolved.

3. Roman Catholic Theology:
3a. A remission of sin or of the punishment for sin, made by a priest in the sacrament of penance on the ground of the authority received from Christ.
3b. The formula declaring such remission.

4. Protestant Theology. A declaration or assurance of divine forgiveness to penitent believers made after the confession of sins.

💓 Repentance

1. Deep sorrow, compunction or contrition for a past sin, wrongdoing or the like.

2. Regret for any past action.

💜 Guilt Trip

1. Informal. A feeling of guilt or responsibility, especially one not justified by reality.

2. Informal. To attempt to instill a guilt trip in; play upon the guilt feelings of.

💗 Forgiveness

1. The act of forgiving; state of being forgiven.

2. Disposition or willingness to forgive.

💖 Expiate

1. To atone for; make amends or reparation for, e.g. to expiate one's crimes.

💝 Remorse

1. Deep and painful regret for wrongdoing; compunction.

  Articles About Forgiveness

A collection of articles on forgiveness to help you further understand the concept, and break through any blocks.

Your Forgiveness Mistake

Unpack the biggest mistake people usually make about forgiveness.


Forgiveness Myths

Unpack common myths about forgiveness that people usually believe.


Forgiveness Frees You

Understand why you want to put in the effort to forgive someone - and what the benefits are for you.


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